Stereotypes in counselling

  Associate columnist and 'reporter at large' Barry Heap reminds us that having a unique personal identity is fine , however being catogorised and sterotyped for it is not. Barry writes  a regular 'agony aunt' column for the online magazine thegayuk.com  Stereotypes in counselling  So another festive period has come and passed, presents have been exchanged and…

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Selfish – the greatest gift of all

Selfish- the greatest gift of all  Time to close the counselling books, put the assignment briefs away and engage in one of the most important lessons counselling training can offer – Self Care. Being selfish is a much underrated pass time, which is sometimes misconstrued as being uncaring, aloof and cold hearted. It’s a skill…

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Was Nelson Mandela’s psychology an example of a fully functioning person?

  ​Was Nelson Mandela's psychology an example of a fully functioning person?   Within a few hours of his death Nelson Mandela gained tributes from across the globe, ranging from genuine warm and heartfelt admiration to opportunist sound bites. In the midst of all his achievements, psychology may remember him for a less mainstream reason. He…

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5 Types of therapist to avoid.

   5 Types of therapist to avoid, I once saw a woman wearing a T shirt with the logo “You have to kiss a lot of toads before you meet prince charming”, I wonder if the same goes for therapists? The examples below are a bit of fun however in the decade that I have…

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Counselling residential weekends – A trainer’s perspective

Counselling residential weekends – A trainer’s perspective André Gide the French Author and Nobel laureate once reflected that; “Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore”. I find this quote accurately reflects the journey of counselling students as they seek to gain personal understanding, and sometimes redemption…

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Petruska Clarkson – 5 Relationship Model

On the 21st of May 2006, Petruska Clarkson, who developed the 5 relationship model, died alone in a hotel room in Amsterdam. She was 58 years old when she took her own life. Born in South Africa, she came to England in 1976 and became an authoritative voice in the world of psychotherapy, specifically developing…

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Counselling – Working with metaphor

Guest blogger and 'reporter at large' Barry Heap returns this week, to discuss how the use of metaphor can enhance the theraputic relationship , developing a common language between client and therapist. Barry writes  a regular 'agony aunt' column for the online magazine thegayuk.com  Counselling – Working with metaphor This month we will be focusing on interactions with clients.…

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Recording Client Sessions – Third Person In the Room

Third Person in The Counselling Room Recording Therapy sessions with clients Effective client contact is a sacred bond where client and practitioner grow and learn but does a recording device in the room change the dynamics?  Part of studying counselling is examining our practice in professional discussion and having a recording of part of a…

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UK Supermarkets Asda and Tesco stereotype mental illness.

  UK supermarket giant Asda have found themselves getting publicity for all the wrong reasons after marketing a hugely insensitive Halloween outfit described as  ‘Mental Patient Fancy Dress Costume’ featuring fake blood, a mask and a fake meat cleaver.  They have withdrawn the product from sale and pledged a donation of £25000 to the charity…

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Warrington Pride

Guest blogger and 'reporter at large' Barry Heap returns this week, to discuss why regional Gay pride events help challenge stereotypes , providing both education and support for all the community. Barry writes  a regular 'agony aunt' column for the online magazine thegayuk.com      Warrington recently held its second pride event.  The purpose of pride is to give the…

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Fresh starts and familiar fears

  This week we offer a warm' Counselling Tutor Welcome' to Jane Vaughan who has Kindley offered to share her experiences of training at Masters level. Jane is no stranger to blogging as she runs her own blog –'Sunbeamsthroughtheclouds'  and has a lively twitter feed.. over to you Jane….. In the next few weeks I will be heading back to…

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When fear won’t die

While travelling to work this week , I found my self listening to the news report that Ariel Castro, an American man, who last month was sentenced to life in prison for the sexual abuse and torture of the young women for over a decade had killed himself in prison. This came as no surprise,…

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BACP Student Membership

In the next few weeks tutors like myself will be handing out BACP student membership packs to learners starting the first year of the level 4 Diploma in Counselling. This is a ritual is performed by most tutors at the start of practice based courses , sending out a clear message that counselling is a…

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Advice from a former self

I am delighted to welcome back our regular guest blogger and 'reporter at large' Barry Heap, his many talents include counselling and journalism, a passionate advocate of Gay Affirmative practice, Barry's articles have appeared in the online magazine thegayuk.com. In this posting Barry offers sage advice to students who are about to embark on Diploma…

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Sat- Nav -Therapy ?

Sat- Nav-Therapy ? Inspired by a conversation over Facebook with long time supporter of Counsellingtutor.Com , David Chesters, I bring you the latest in theraputic technology; 'The Internal Locus of Navigation'     

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Teenagers Hierarchy of Needs

Let me ask you a question, if Abraham Maslow was alive today , and he was asked what a teenagers 'Hierarchy of needs look like  , do you think he would  describe it like the graphic below? While the image above may seem flippant and dismissive of young peoples experience, I believe it tells us an…

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Counselling – Open Questions

Counselling – Open Questions One of the counselling skills that students learn through training is how to question clients appropriately and what sort of questions to ask. I believe this skill comes with practice. In training, we use the term ‘speaker’ and ‘listener’; this gives students an easy way of referring to their roles when…

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Escape from Freedom – Erich Fromm-Book Review

   Escape from Freedom – Book Review  It's about this time of year that my Counselling and Teaching practice wind down for the summer that I complete the last task on my CPD list , that of choosing two counselling related books to read over my holiday. I believe that literature is the cement which…

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A Gay therapists experiences in training

Welcome to Barry Heap, Counsellor, Journalist and former student at Warrington Collegiate, who is writing a regular column 'Out & About' on the subject of Gay Affirmative Practice. In his first posting Barry explores his own journey of self discovery, congruence and the redemptive power of courage. 'I write this Blog today as a confident proud…

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Don’t Fix…Just Listen !

 Don't Fix – Just listen ..,  How often have I said this to my students over the years, when trying to develop a less 'fix it' approach to counselling skills. Sometimes it can appear that that clients problems are all to obvious to us, the inexperienced therapist may have a tendency to 'jump in', fix or rescue'  because after all the problem…

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Counselling Tutor Update

Counselling Tutor Update  Reading list for next years Counselling Courses Over the last few days I have been interviewing prospective students who have applied for counselling courses.One of the recurring themes in the interviews was 'what shall I read, what books do I need for my course ?' To help you choose the right books…

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Intrusive thoughts

I am writing this post as response to the excellent piece on intrusive thoughts written by Ian Tomlinson of the Affinity Centre which is based in my home town of Manchester. The thrust of Ian’s article is that our brains can and do give us bizarre messages, known in the ‘trade’ as intrusive thinking. A few years…

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Lets talk about abuse….

Lets talk about abuse…. There were two news stories this week which caught my eye and saddened my heart, the shocking pictures of TV cook and writer Nigella Lawson being held by the neck by her husband Charles Saatchi and revelations from the trial of Jeremy Forester the ex school teacher who was this week…

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Counselling Resources

  Library of Counselling Resources update….. I can confirm that ‘behind the scenes’, myself , Ken and our library manager  Yvonne  are busy building the structure to the library and adding resources which will open in September 2013 ready for the new academic year. The ambition is to finally and in time  provide over a…

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Carl Rogers and Gloria

Carl Rogers and Gloria Carl Rogers and Gloria, there cannot be many counsellors or students of counselling that have not watched the film ‘Three approaches to Psychotherapy’ and wondered who Gloria was and what was the story behind the film? ‘Three approaches to psychotherapy’., filmed in 1964 was Everett Shostrom’s second attempt at filming the…

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Help Wanted ‘2’ …. Participate in a students research project !

I have been contacted by Samantha Bourque, a student currently studying an MA in Clinical Counselling at the University of Chester. Which will finish on the 31st of August 2013 Sam has agreed to post a summary of her findings on the blog when complete. She is looking for Volunteers to take part in a research…

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Making mistakes in therapy

'A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new'  Albert Einstien ,who for a physicist had a better understanding of the human condition than a few psychologists I could mention , made the above quote which reminds us that the fear of getting it wrong or making a mistake will almost certainly hamper our ability to learn and…

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Help Wanted …. Participate in a students research project !

I have been contacted by  Leana Hughes, a student currently studying an MA in Clinical Counselling at the University of Chester. Which will finish on the 31st of August 2013 Leana has agreed to post a summary of her findings on the blog when completed. She is looking for 4 Volunteers to take part in a…

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The 4 Tasks of Grieving

The 4 Tasks of grieving  is based on research undertaken by J. William Worden, Ph.D, currently a professor of Psychology at the Rosemead School of Psychology, Biola University California.  Worden, a prolific author on the subject of how grief is experienced by adults and children, publishised 6 books on the subject, co-authoring many more. His grief model moved away…

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The Changing Face of Psychiatry ?

The changing face of Psychiatry ?, I came across an article in the Guardian newspaper headed 'Psychiatrists under'fire in mental health battle'. The piece that followed outlined The British Psychological Society's division of clinical psychology (DCP) intended publication of a letter, declaring that,given the lack of evidence, it is time for a "paradigm shift" in how the issues of…

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Tea & Talk

This fundraising initiative recently caught my eye, because it is so simple and involves one of my favourite pastimes … Tea drinking!! The event aptly named ‘Tea &Talk’ was (and still is) an initiative to bring individuals together for a chat over a cup of tea (or coffee) and to raise funds for The Mental…

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Sounds and Voices

This week our guest blogger is Ged Hindley, a second second year Diploma in Counselling Student at Warrington Collegiate.In this post he talks about his experience of attending an event at James Lee House in Warrington called 'Sounds and Voices' an initiative to remove the stigma and fight the alienation around mental health. 'About Sounds & Voices We are a…

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Counselling Tutor Phone App

Announcing The Counselling Tutor phone app Free Download !! Student life can be busy, hectic and sometimes frantic!  .. I know!! So…I have designed this handy little app which will work on Android and Apple devices to keep all your essential studying information in one place. The app has links to CounsellingTutor.com, as well as all my other social…

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Choosing our CPD?

 It’s about this time in the academic year when my learners, especially those who are about to graduate as qualified counsellors ask ‘How do we go about choosing our CPD? ’- ‘Where do I go from here?’  As with all professions there is an expectation that those who continue to practice as counsellors engage in…

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Counselling Older People

I am indebted ‘Mark’ who is one of my learners for sending me this BBC article ‘Late life crisis’ hits the over -60’s, which has prompted me to write about counselling older people in light of some recent conversation I have been having with my learners . The article discusses a recent piece of research…

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Counselling and Technology

I am indebted to Karen from Karen Peters Counselling for sending me this article on Counselling and Technology published on the Department of Heath Website.  The article describes how the implementation of new technology will, help therapists and administrators cut the time they currently spend recording outcomes. For those of you who have followed my…

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How to Survive Counselling Training (a students guide) Download

How to Survive Counselling Training (a students guide). Is my first attempt at ‘writing’ ,I offer you this ‘guide’ with the same mixture of trepidation and heady excitement  I experienced on my very first day as a Diploma student at Tameside College in 2002. The guide was ‘born’ from a number of conversations through the years with colleagues…

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What happens when you qualify?

  What happens when you qualify?  This week it gives me great pleasure to welcome Karen Peters as our guest blogger, Karen’s observations on ‘life after training’ make interesting, if sobering reading. What is your experience of living in the post training world? Did you find work?  If so, what was the process of moving…

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The 8 habits of highly effective counsellors

I have called this blog post ‘The 8 habits of highly effective counsellors’, after reading the blog of Bob Cooke my Colleague and the clinical lead at Manchester Institute for Psychotherapy in Manchester England. Bobs blog entitled ‘Effective habits for effective psychotherapy’ lists essential states of mind or behaviours that lead to good practice and longevity…

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The new ten commandments

  The new ten commandments was a brought to my attention by a colleague as a possible subject for a blog post ,he had recenty read that the church had 're-interpreted' the commandments , this conversation came at quite an interesting time for me as at the moment I am studying ‘An introduction to philosophy’ by distance…

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Moral Injury, the true face of PTSD?

The phrase ‘moral Injury’ is becoming widely used in psychological circles in relation to Soldiers returning from combat with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. In an article entitled  ‘Invisible Wounds’  for the online magazine Psychology today ,Eric Newhouse a Pulitzer Prize winning author describes the phenomenon as “Wounded Soul Syndrome, based in the guilt of what…

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Colour of dreams

I came across an interesting article on the colour of dreams in the February edition of New Scientist magazine. The article quoted from ‘Consciousness and Cognition’ a journal which describes itself as “An International Journal, provides a forum for a natural science approach to the issues of consciousness, voluntary control, and self”.  The journal describes…

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First Counselling Session

  First Counselling Session – Overview for Student Counsellors A lot of clients wonder what their first counselling session will be like, maybe asking themselves: ‘How will I feel? What is the counsellor’s role? What if I don’t like it? Will I get advice?’ So, in this blog post, I am going to take the mystery…

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Shame in Psychotherapy

Shame in psychotherapy is one of the most powerful emotions clients can experience, and perhaps the most contradictory and difficult to work with as a therapist. One of the most powerful reflections on shame was quoted by AdamAppleton a writer of personal development books who had suffered an abusive childhood; “Share whatever it is you're ashamed…

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The Examined Life How We Lose And Find Ourselves Book Review

The Examined Life Book Review [jwplayer config=”Custom Player” mediaid=”1061″] The Geek Philosopher Socrates informed us that “The unexamined life is not worth living” the notion that without some form of self understanding or self awareness them we are destined to live a life which is unfulfilling and lacking in richness and maybe unhappy. Stephen Grosz’s…

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Online Diploma in counselling ?

I recently came across a website that advertised an “Online Diploma in counselling” which offered a recognised qualification from a reputable awarding body validated by Ofqual ,a UK government organisation who describe themselves as ; “the regulator of qualifications, examinations and assessments in England and vocational qualifications in Northern Ireland.” The website described themselves as a…

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Training to be a child counsellor

Every year I get enquiries from students who wish undertake training to be a child counsellor, this area is becoming a more specialised field with lots of agencies, professionals and schools realising that children’s mental and emotional health should be a priority.  Wales is leading the way; in 2011 – 2012 the Welsh Government provided funding of £4.5m as…

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The Examined Life by Stephen Grosz

While travelling to work last week and I came across a very interesting program on BBC Radio 4, which featured an interview with a psychoanalyst who has just published a book called The Examined Life by Stephen Grosz, In which discuses his client work through a series of client case studys presented as stories which he…

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Satanic child abuse

Today while visiting a cafe, I came across a copy of the Daily Express newspaper whose headline shouted “Saville was part of a satanic child abuse ring”. The story was referring to the late Jimmy Saville, who it transpired was a serial paedophile who’s crimes span over 40 years, involving as many as 450 victims,…

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The Tribes of the Person-Centred Nation book review

[jwplayer config=”Custom Player” mediaid=”427″] I thought I would give an update to The Tribes of the Person Centred Nation book review which you can view as a video presentation above. I consistently reflect to my students the importance of good literature in developing a competent, compassionate therapist, mainly because a good book can open our eyes (and hearts)…

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Bonkers Bruno again ?

I wasn't planning to post again to today , however on a trip to the supermarket whilst browsing the newspaper rack , I noticed the the Daily Star headline  and thought, 'yep it's Bonkers Bruno again'. The non story which accompanied the headline was that Paula Hamilton a former model as well known for her alcoholism as much as the iconic 80's  Volkswagen advert she appeared in had suffered as panic…

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We are migrating.

Hello long suffering fans !! We are in the process of migrating  to our new home which you have found, so well done you !! In  the next few months all the blog will have a permanent home hear at counsellingtutor.co.uk in the meantime if you could bear with me while I learn a brand new web authoring tool from scratch , that would be appreciated. Recent research has discovered that…

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Can compassion be taught?

On my way to work this week I caught a program on BBC Radio 4 about nurse training and recent revelations about the quality of care offered to patients in hospitals.   The format of the program included a phone in which featured heart rending stories from listeners whose relatives had experienced inhumane treatment by…

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The Tribes of the Person-Centred Nation

One of the Joys of being a counselling tutor is that sometimes you can ask for ‘Desk Copies’ of books from the publisher. A desk copy is a review sample sent out by the publisher, in the hope that the reviewer will order more copies for the library or recommend  it to learners and colleagues.…

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Reflections on the Anxiety Conference

  I thought I would write a short term reflection on my experience of the Anxiety conference in Edinburgh. < First of all, it was good to be back in a city I first visited 25 years ago as a younger man, bold , proud and with a solid sense of history is how I…

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Catch up ..

Graduation It’s been a very busy couple of weeks here at ‘counselling towers’ on Thursday the 8th of November I attended the Warrington Collegiate, Higher Education awards ceremony at St Elphins church in Warrington. What a wonderful occasion, seeing my ex learners, some of whom I had taught for four years resplendent in their caps…

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A busy few weeks ahead.

I am very excited about the next few weeks; my diary is getting full of fantastic events I will be attending in the world of counselling and psychotherapy. Thursday the 8th of November 2012 sees me attending the annual Warrington Collegiate Higher Education Awards Ceremony at St Elphin’s church in Warrington. It is a time we…

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Off to Edinburgh,

I have been asked by fellow inter-netter John Wilson from onlinevents.co.uk, to be a speaker at the ‘Working with Anxiety Conference on the 24th of November’ in Edinburgh. I will be discussing how to work with anxiety from a client centred perspective, which is quite synchronous as I am at this moment reading a book…

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Attitudes to child abuse

 It’s been one of those weeks that if I had the choice of handing in my membership card of the human race and applying for political asylum on say Alpha Centuri this blog posting may well have been transcribed on a starship travelling at warp speed on its way to that distant star.    …

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Warrington Pride

    Promotional video  Warrington Pride    One of the ways to measure a civilised society is to observe how accepting it is of difference; at the age of 54 I can see just how far we have traveled in this respect and, sadly how far we have to go. In this post I am going to talk about…

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Working week

    My working week can be quite varied, teaching, counselling and today 14/09/12)  being a guest lecturer at Chester University, as part of their annual staff conference.   The theme of the day was ‘Shaping the Student Experience’, my part in  this was to deliver a lecture entitled ‘Using technology to enhance learning: ideas…

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My supervisors chair

  My supervisors chair….   Around once a month, usually on a Friday, I leave my home in Mossley, driving south east, my destination is the former spa town of Buxton which nestles in the Peak National Park.   It's a 40 minute drive through picturesque and tranquil countryside of the Peak District. The winding…

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50 shades in therapy

      Over the summer it was hard to avoid the ‘50 Shades of Grey’ phenomenon which has seemingly slipped in to the national Zeitgeist, love them or hate them, the trilogy of books written by EL Grey, described by a friend of mine as “Mills and Boon with bondage” have been an international…

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New logo 2

Hi  I am thinking of running this logo as well , again opinion please, Yes we can have Daisy in it  May change the Colour 🙂 Logo size stays the same ( beggars cannot be choosers ,  Comments 

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Welcome back !!

 Relaxed and recharged after a lovely summer which saw me visiting a record number of tea rooms, one of which I am quite enamoured with is in Hebden Bridge, tea is served in a pot with tea leaves a strainer and home baked raisin cake.   (We are at the fundamentalist hard core end of…

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Schools out …..

By the time you read this I will have left the world of therapy and be engaging in some self care , no more teaching , counselling , supervision , broadcasting on YouTube , pod-casting or back to back CPD. No more pinging emails , phone ringing of the hook or learners  knocking on my door asking ‘can you have a look at this…

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Endings in therapy

Endings in therapy and the teaching of it….!The academic year is coming to and end, in the next couple of months Certificates and Diplomas will be dropping through the letter boxes of my now ex learners as they move on in to what ever future they desire to aspire to.This week I said goodbye to learners , some of whom I had…

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If it’s good enough for Rogers, it’s good enough for me !

  A little known fact about Carl Rogers is that he was selected as one of ten students to go to Beijing for the “World Student Christian Federation Conference” for six months. He reflected that his new experiences so broadened his thinking that he began to doubt some of his basic religious views. Religions loss was psychotherapy gain,…

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Making the wheels turn

 I once heard a wonderful quote that “volunteering was the oil that kept the wheels of society moving”.   So my posting today is about one individual who last week took part in the BUPA Great Manchester Run carrying a rucksack weighing 35 lbs (military training weight) for the ‘Help for Heroes’ charity.   Scott…

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100,000 hits…….

Having a bit of a celebration here at Counselling Resource Towers, the reason is that my YouTube Channel Counselling Resource  has had over 100,000 hits . In this video Bob Cooke interviews me about the inception of the channel and my hopes for the future. Thank you for watching……..

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When a client asks …….

In this occasional series I will be exploring what happens when a client asks a question that training, practice experience, or personal reflection has not prepared you ( me!) for. “What’s it like being a counsellor?“ asked a client recently …. Now those who know me, colleagues , friends ,learners would say that I am…

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CPD..& TEA….

I’ve got my pencil case …..  I have my school bag….. It’s first day at school… . I am a bit giddy… Today I attended the Manchester Institute  for Psychotherapy to start a 6 part course entitled “Child and Adolescent Studies” facilitated by two very experienced trainers and psychotherapists , Amanda Phillips and Stephanie  Cooke The course ran from 10 am to 4:15 pm  and I can report two…

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All the news that’s fit to print…..

I am in the newspaper business, it’s official.. I recently came across an ‘app’ that transforms twitter feeds in to an on line newspaper, my idea is to provide a contextual link  to counselling in the areas of Mental heath , education and the voluntary  sector know known as the ” Third Sector”. I hope you like the content…

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It’s a small world…….

  ……….and getting smaller, last week I was contacted via email by Dr Christine Brooks from Florida , she wanted to use my Maslow presentation on the Counsellingresource channel  for her level 2 students who are enrolled on a sports fitness course she facilitates.   She very kindly asked my permission before using the clip…

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Gay Cure …….

Sometimes I find it hard to believe I live in the 21st century…….. , there I was sat in a restaurant just checking the news on my smart phone  when this article appeared on the Guardian website , the image above was to be used as adverting on London buses  by a charity who claim…

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Fame at last … well almost ……

Recently my colleague who manages the PR for the college approached me and asked if she could do a piece on the counsellingresource , my YouTube channel. The idea was to send out information to educational periodicals such as the Times Educational supplement to explain my approach of using social networking to support teaching and learning.   And sure enough, as good as her word my story appeared here,…

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Funeral for a friend

This Tuesday I will be attending the funeral of my colleague and friend Colette Jubbs, although we had not seen each other in nearly two years, I treasure her wisdom and insight not only as a fellow counselling tutor but as a human being.   We first met  when  I was a fledgling tutor at…

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Being silent is not being strong

Over the years I have often reflected that in my practice I see more women them men, when I do work with men  sometimes I find myself working with the clients presenting issues but also with a  societal ‘norm ‘ that  although fading still pervades ,that ‘men are strong’. In other words the shame of…

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Bonkers Bruno

Bonkers Bruno, perhaps one of the saddest and most misguided headlines ever published was the Sun Newspapers coverage in 2003 of boxer Frank Bruno’s struggle with mental illness. Under the front page headline “Bonkers Bruno Locked Up“ the article (sic) went on to describe him as a “Nutter “ who was now “Locked up in a…

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Mindfulness

As a therapist I am interested in how humans access their ‘inner world’, the exploration of self that asks the fundamental questions of existence – “Who am I? Why am I here? ”. My interest isn’t just professional; I have asked myself the same questions many times on my journey through the path of life. …

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DSM V

DSM V To psychiatric clinicians the DSM or Diagnostic Statistical Manual is an essential tool in the diagnosis and treatment of psychiatric disorders such as schizophrenia or behavioural difficulties such as eating or personality disorders. First published in 1952, by the American Psychiatric Association, the manual is due for its fifth revision in 2013, however…

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The road to rights

In a week that has seen three men convicted of ‘inciting hatred on the grounds of sexuality’ by way of distributing leaflets promoting the ‘Death penalty for homosexuality’ it seems that the law at long last has ‘woken up’. The term homophobia was first coined by George Weinberg, a psychologist, in the 1960’s, the term…

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Seasons greetings and self care

Hello This year I am having a break, no books, research, or the launching of YouTube sites!!, I am going to get as far away from counselling as I can get….. Occasionally I meet my first counselling tutor, she lives across the valley from me, I bump in to her at the local coffee shop.…

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Class of 2011 -Graduation

On November the 3rd 2011, I had the privilege of watching my former students graduate at the Warrington Collegiate annual HE awards ceremony at St Elphins Church, Warrington. Please listen to the Audio-Cast above to hear my thoughts of the wonderful occasion.

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Live Residential blog

Just a quick blog from the level 3 counselling students residential here in Whaley Bridge Derbyshire.All students on counselling courses undertake a residential weekend to help with self reflection and personal development. Lots of experiential learning in a beautiful setting. The first picture is a group photo of the students and tutor. The second  pictures…

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Soldiers heart’.

  Most Fridays at around 11 am I can be found in my favourite tea room, sipping Earl Grey and delighting in a Garibaldi biscuit, the only pressing concern, when to order my next pot of tea and ‘mmmm those bourbons look nice’.  Today however was different, at 11 O’clock the tea room fell silent…

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Empathy

Walking in someone else’s shoes I recently read a news articleon the subject of empathy, It was describing research carried out by Dr.Simon Baron-Cohen, the cousin of actor Sasha who reported that generally, women demonstrate empathy to a higher degree than men. Empathy is defined by Oxford Dictionaries as :-    “The ability to understand and…

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Supervision

Video blog time!!!  I thought I would link two videos together; one is a direct to camera piece where I ‘reveal’ myself to my blog followers as I explain how to approach finding a supervisor for those new to counselling practice. The other is an existing presentation on http://www.youtube.com/user/CounsellingResource  ‘AKA’  ‘The Counselling Resource Channel’ in…

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The Death Of You And Me

Better than sex ? ‘The Death of You and Me ‘is the forth track on Noel Gallagher’s latest album ‘High Flying Birds’, I know this because I have the album on my smart phone which I carry on my belt during the day. . My reason for bringing this to your attention is the theme…

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The omnipotent counselor

This is an  occasional series of post’s highlighting the kind of questions I get asked or interactions I have  with people who project on to me more power ( read super powers) than I have or would want !                                …

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Carl Rogers and The CIA

One of the wonderful things about the internet is the ability to to find out things you would not know if you did not have it ……. For example Carl Rogers involvement with the CIA  in 1958, detailing his work with the Society for the Investigation of Human Ecology – a front organisation for the…

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Steve Jobs ……February 24, 1955 – October 5, 2011

Steve Jobs February 24, 1955 – October 5, 2011   Recently a learner  asked me what 'self actualization was' ,'how could it be defined ?'. My stock answer because I have been asked this a lot through the years  was to talk about Martin Luther King , Mother Teresa, Richard Branson, but somehow the examples…

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When the door shuts……

Make sure you can find your way out     A couple of years ago I received a phone call from a friend of mine I had trained with, I will call him 'Dave' although that is not his real name.   We had first met as students on the certificate group in 2001, as…

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The omnipotent counsellor (1)

This is an occasional series of post’s highlighting the kind of questions I get asked or interactions I have  with people who project on to me more power ( read super powers) than I have or would want !   Names have been changed to protect the innocent ….. ~   The following interaction was…

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You Are Not Alone

I was preparing a lesson tonight on ‘Congruence’ for my level 3 class, the theory tells us that that along with ‘Empathy’ and ‘Unconditional Positive Regard’, this ‘trinity’ of conditions which Carl Rogers described as the ‘necessary and sufficient conditions for therapeutic change’ colloquially referred to as the ‘Core conditions’.The theory tells us that if…

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Medicine for the soul. ……

Books.. ‘They’re full of quotes’. “Until I feared I would lose it, I never loved to read.  One does not love breathing”.     Harper Lee  Even as child I appreciated the power of books, ‘Tom Sawyer and Huckleberry Finn’ ‘Man in the Moon’ and Laurie Lee’s classic ‘Cider with Rose’ set the foundations of my…

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D.N.A

Short for ‘did not attend’,now dear reader please do not misunderstand me, clients have the right not to attend sessions. No onecan be forced to have therapy,sometimes clients need space,or perhaps life gets in the way. Which is why I am philosophical,about getting up at 6.30am driving 35 miles to find myself writing a blog…

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